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Defining Success, Part 2: Values and Integrity

Timothy Gay

val·ue   [val-yoo]

relative worth, merit, or importance: the value of a college education ; the value of a queen in chess .

I mentioned that I'd be touching on the why of success. If you talk to any person who's achieved success at at high level, every one of them will tell you that the why is 90% of achieving success. Back when I was in network marketing, my sponsor said to me, "If your why doesn't make you cry at night, it's not big enough." While I don't really agree with that, it does spark a good look at your thought process. While I am a fan of thinking big, I'm also a big fan of looking deep into myself. I feel internal work is more important than external work as that shapes our world (another post so I'll stop rambling). In this case, you need to look deep and see what you value in life. Is it a belief? An action? A principal you live by?

Exercise: Write down your what you value in life. Look at the definition above and think of something that holds merit or importance in your life. The only rule I have is that it must be a belief, principal or an action. Your values can not be material items.  Why? Material things come and go in our lives and are, in many cases, easily replaceable. Values are not something that diminish over time. Also, refrain from including money. Once again, it comes and goes and can be replaced at any time (even in a downed economy). A good example of something I value is honesty (ok so this is thinking big).

The whole topic of values won't be complete without another VERY important piece to the pie...

in·teg·ri·ty   [in-teg-ri-tee]

adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.

the state of being whole, entire, or undiminished: to preserve the integrity of the empire.

I really like these two definitions as you can tell. I'm a big believer in the integrity piece. It's not just doing what you say, it's who you are. It's living those beliefs even when no one's looking at you. It's being those values and merits. I mentioned that honesty is one of my values and ironically, it's in the definition itself. This is a critical piece to any level of success, not just for the obvious reason of how you look to other people as well as yourself or other reasons. My spiritual mentor taught me a very interesting lesson...

How you do ANYTHING is how you'll do EVERYTHING.

Lack of integrity shows up everywhere in your life. For example, if you're willing to lie to get a job, what else are you willing to lie about? Do you lie to your family and friends? Your boss? The government come tax time (I don't care how many people do it, YOU don't need to)? Have a strong integral approach to life. Believe me, it will manifest in other areas in life. (another topic for another time).

There's definitely more to the why side of things and I'll be touching upon one of them in my next post. Until then, keep this in mind:

How have your values and integrity helped shape your life? Do you stick to them on a daily basis regardless of the situation?


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