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Living in Truth, Loving Myself

Heike Zelnhefer
"I love my Self, honor and respect my Self, just the way I am"

I find this mantra very reassuring and often use it as the topic for my meditations. I started to meditate almost daily for 10-15 minutes. This is a time when I find peace and connect to my core, to who I truly am.

I recently participated in the 21-Day Meditation Challenge by the Chopra Center as well as read interviews with Anita Moorjani . Reading and listening to both was and still is just so incredibly inspirational and needless to say, educational.

I learned that loving myself means to respect myself and accept every part of myself just for what it is and who I am. I often thought that if I would have been nicer, kinder, smarter in school, and whoever my parents wanted me to be then they would not have fought so much, broken up, and dividing our family. I also thought that if I were more slender and more athletic then my ex-husband would not have left me. All these were wrong beliefs entertained by my ego. And so I came to realize that these thoughts were just fueling my insecurity to a point where I lost all sense of Self and self-worth. What I did was think with my ego-mind that if I were different, my life would be different, would be better. What I never understood until very recently was that I was perfect just the way I was and AM. Striving to be someone else, looking like someone else, or having talents like someone else was denying my own Self and who I really AM. And with denying my own Self, well what was left?! Left was an empty shell, a vessel that was not maintained, a body that felt not taken care of.

Now I know that I can be me just for who I am. I am enough! I deserve to love and be loved just for the simple reason that I exist! I am a magnificent human being! I am beautiful just the way I am! I follow my feelings and do what makes me feel good because ultimately, if I feel good, I know that everyone else around me feels good as well. We are all connected, we are all One. Living in this connectedness brings me much more joy. I experience a state of wonder and awe for all living beings just as well as for myself.

If I drift off into the land of fear, worry, and doubt, I gently remind myself that this is not the place I want to be at. Saying silently SO on each in-breath and HUM on each out-breath helps me to re-connect back to myself and to the present moment.

I close this post with "Our Deepest Fear" by Marianne Williamson .

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

And with that, let your light shine and live your Sathya or Truth


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